wife…? no, thank you. what else you got? weddings are SO foofaraw.
13 Oct 2009 2 Comments
in society problems Tags: contract, foofaraw, funny, love, redundant, wedding
foofaraw. i was dying to use that word 
(you can click on it for a definition)
hi.
i was riding a bus while back, coming back home from my boyfriend’s house. the bus driver had the exterior appearance of a drunk person, and i when i first started taking that route with him behind the wheel, i was a little frightened. but i came to realize the man is not really drunk, he was just a tired man who probably had a fairly difficult life.
we had a few hellos here and there and then he noticed that i was taking this specific route to visit my boyfriend. he seems happy about that and sometimes he would ask me questions.
so, that one time, from the beginning of my post, he decided to ask me when will i marry my boyfriend and leave the country. i laughed and said how i will not do such thing. his face got an expression of a question mark and he said something that sounded silly to me, but here, sadly, it can be true. he asked “but, isn’t that (to get married) what you, young girls, dream of?”
“well, maybe. but not me. my dreams are more… intellectual. i dream of phDs.” he laughed. not the answer he expected.
that just popped back into my head and i laughed. it’s funny how society teaches little girls they have to get married and have kids… and that is not only here, in montenegro. it’s all over the world. even funnier is that it teaches little boys not to marry, or delay it as fast as possible.
and then you have all these females wanting to get married and all these males wanting to have fun, instead. not saying marriage isn’t fun. i just think that a contract shouldn’t be used in the case of love.
i, as i have probably mentioned before, in About me section, am madly in love. but i don’t see why would i have to, or even want to, sign a contract that says this. i write this and tell it and think it every breathing moment. and he knows it and i know it. why would church or state be given the right to make my relationship “official”? i made it official, by starting it.
i am so happy my boyfriend does NOT wanna marry me. it gives me even more assurance we’ll stay together forever. *sigh of love and devotion*
i have been to a lot of weddings. seems that most weddings lately happen because SHE is pregnant and thinks she will be though less of if she has a child, and there is no legal contract between her partner and her. so, they call each other husband and wife, and than it’s okay that her kid is born 5 months into the marriage. not all weddings happen because of pregnancy, of course.
the only reason i would get married is the wedding dress. god, they make them so pretty. i plan to go and try them out soon. just for fun. they are so big and pretty.
society is so funny sometimes. i try not to play by its rules.
but, nowadays, weddings represent a business. just think about how much do those wedding dresses cost! and then food and drinks and the dance halls and the outfits that people have to buy to look their best.
that is what weddings are – foofaraw.
marriage – well, you do not need a contract to be in a relationship. you need love. marriages tend to suck the love out of the relationships. that is how lawyers make their money.
love people, cherish love. there is no ‘contract’ in LOVE.
all the love,
