The Pros of Online Dating
28 Jan 2010 4 Comments
in fun fun fun!, society problems Tags: conversations, love, online dating, online relationships, relationship
hi, all. it took me a while, but here i am.
i really hope you didn’t read the title and think “online dating – forever?!” i am not saying that people should never meet, i am just going to introduce the pros of beginning a relationship in this way. my original title was going to be “the pros and cons of internet dating”, but when i presented this to my boyfriend, he said “and what are you gonna say the cons are?” he is right. i really could not see any that aren’t the same like in traditional dating.
i met my boyfriend online. no, i didn’t accidentally came across him, we were working for the same company and he was in a different country, so the only way we could correspond was via gmail chat and skype. oh, and did we ever. but, i am not gonna write my love story here. i am here to speak in favor of online meeting, getting to know each other.
first and biggest pro of internet dating is
talking! when you meet someone in a chat room, what do you do with them? chat! just chat. and then chat some more. and if you don’t want to chat anymore, you sign out, they do not know what you look like, and you continue to someone else. or not. you go read a book. doesn’t matter. but if you talk with this person for hours, and you wanna meet again and again and all that, there might be something to it.
i never met a boy that was willing to talk to me for a month. to get to know me, before he even gets to hold my hand. for me to get to know him before anything, until i discovered that you can feel something for someone that is typing words across from your monitor. it is possible. and it is not rare, either.
talking to someone for months.
second advantage is:
if you don’t like boys from your country, meet someone from where ever you want! no offence to boys in montenegro, but good god, really? most of them are dependent and just not right. i do not know many boys here who are capable of functioning on their own. honestly. uncool. so, you get to choose. the world got small since the internet, you can talk to anyone, anywhere. you can meet people from all over the world. it’s exciting. and amazing.
third one:
you feel safe. at least i did. at the time, i felt like i am just playing. i was willing to get the game to some pretty high places, and did not notice i let my guard down and allowed myself to feel the incredible emotions that took over me. i didn’t think i was capable of this, and i was shocked that something like this can be happening to me, with someone i have never met, but it was, and i accepted it (oh, and we have been together for the past 17 months, if any of you were wondering).
if you are an introverted person, it will be easier for you to open up to someone from the safety of your home. not everyone can go out and meet someone.
and the cons: well, anyone can lie to you, anyone can deceive you, wherever you meet them. when you are in a chatroom, do you think “everyone here is a predator”? because you are in that chatroom, too.
i have friends who moved to another country to be with the person they met online and are in love with. i have experienced this myself. i realized the greatest beginning to a relationship is getting to know one another through conversations and laughter.
worked for me.
all the love,
